Put the Pussy on Pause

It has to be said! Our kitty's are too damn precious to be shared with just anyone, and in this day and age such a thing is far from taboo. 

I say this from experience. Not long ago I had a miserable opinion of myself and an even more daunting perception of my body and its value, so casual sex was exactly that, casual - meaningless! That of which momentarily satisfied me, and for the most part left me feeling empty and lost. I’ll save you guys Christ’s heroic rescue upon my life and instead expand on how I was finally made aware of the value of my body, and how men recognize its significance.

As women, our kitty’s hold more power than we're able to measure and men know this, that is why they spend countless hours in pursuit of it. Give them the kitty with no qualms and you're freely abdicating your power! First things first, we must understand our value in order to properly assess who's worth our time and more importantly, our bodies.

To learn one’s worth can be uncomfortable, because it requires coming to terms with the fact that your current image of yourself may be extremely distorted. Don’t panic, that’s the hardest part! Once you’ve admitted where you truly are you can effectively begin to rebuild your self esteem, your image, confidence etc. Now you have a factual reference point to build upon, as opposed to a makeshift, idolized image of yourself which never led to the right situations in the first place. Kapeesh!

In response to your positive reassessment and evaluation of your body, now the gentlemen begin to recognize and respect you for it, (remember, men can sense how you feel about yourself, whether it’s negative or positive, they know). That doesn’t mean it’s safe to give him the cookie just yet! Whether you’re waiting till the eponymous marriage bed or not, make that dude wait! It's not impossible, and he’ll value you more because he now understands that you value you and aren't accepting anything less! Isn’t that what we want anyways?  

I have this hypothesis that men want to be made to wait. They’re eager to find the woman that will set a standard for them to follow because they understand a woman’s power and hope to settle down with someone who understands her power as well. If not she’s easily malleable and will basically fall for anything. Womp womp. I'm aware that men may not admit to this, but I'm almost certain such a reasoning exists somewhere in their subconscious! Found ya'll out.

Alright ladies, this is not an easy fete’. But it’s simply unacceptable for us to be unaware of our worth – we're just too fly for that. Start by learning and appreciating yourself without a man, and let your power do its magic by revealing to you just how phenomenal you are. Jadore'!

Comments and or questions welcomed!  Meow.



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